How to Write a Blessing


Find the words.

They are in you. Let’s pull them out. Someone needs to hear them.

I’ve been asked by several followers if I had a guide that would help them begin to write a Blessing.  At first, I must admit I was a little overwhelmed by the responsibility of creating something like this, but then I realized, I already had it!  For our Footstone families who want to include the Blessing in the interaction of their session, I have four questions that I ask them about each of their children.  These four questions were inspired by watching the Privette family speak Blessings over the years. There is a basic format they use each time. 

So I’m going to share with you the four questions I use to pull words of Blessing out of our Footstone families.  We laugh, we sometimes cry, but we always find those special words, those special gifts that they see in each of their children. However, I want to make sure you understand that this isn’t exclusively for a parent to use for a child.  These are questions anyone can ask themselves to start playing “the game” I shared about in my last post

I am convinced we have to train ourselves and intentionally look for these qualities in people.  If you memorize these four questions, I can promise you that you’ll begin to see into the true heart of people... and then I beg you to tell them what you see.

These are my questions.  There is also a pdf version at the end of this post that you can download.  As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts.

How to Write a Blessing…

1. What are adjectives that come to your mind when you think about this person? (single word descriptions) i.e.strong, courageous, honest, kind, joyful, fearless...

2. What are special gifts that you see in this person? i.e. you protect your family and friends; you have a spirit of generosity; you speak clearly and confidently; you have a special touch with animals...

3. What do you know this person will be able to accomplish in his or her life? i.e. you will be a great leader; you will have great adventure and success; you will use your gifts to change the world...

4. You are about to have one last conversation with this person. What do you desperately want to make sure they know about themselves? i.e. I love you for you; You have great purpose; I am proud of you... 

This may be the most important question of all. So I’d like to give you an extended example. These words came from a special client who shared this with me for his daughter... “I would tell her that not once in her life has she ever let me down.  I have always been and always will be proud to be her father.  I don’t want her to ever change.”

With much love,


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